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I Lost My Earring, But Not My Nerve

Oct 18, 2023

As my family and I embarked on our hiking adventures through stunning national parks, there was always an unspoken truth—I was the outlier in our group. While they embraced the towering cliffs and breathtaking vistas, I grappled with a fear that gripped me like no other—acrophobia. On a scale of one to ten, my fear of heights easily hit the maximum. But beyond the personal anecdotes lies a fascinating journey into understanding what acrophobia is, why it affects some of us, and how we can confront our fears to embrace new heights. Join me on this expedition into the world of acrophobia, where we'll unravel the science, explore personal experiences, and discover the paths to overcoming this paralyzing fear.

The Nature of Acrophobia

Acrophobia, often referred to as the fear of heights, is more than just a discomfort at the edge of a precipice. It's an anxiety disorder that can trigger extreme distress, even when one imagines being in high places. The palpitations, sweaty palms, and overwhelming sense of dread can be truly disruptive, limiting one's ability to function in situations that others find ordinary.

The Origins of Acrophobia

The precise origins of acrophobia remain elusive, but it is thought to arise from a complex interplay of genetic, environmental, and psychological factors. In my case, I couldn't pinpoint a traumatic fall or incident that triggered my fear, and I'm the lone member of my family who grapples with this particular phobia. It appears that acrophobia, like many fears, may find its roots in our individual predispositions to anxiety.

Navigating Life with Acrophobia

For those of us who contend with acrophobia, planning outdoor activities often involves meticulous research on the terrain. When the unease settles in, we seek alternative routes or activities that don't involve dizzying heights. But occasionally, we decide to surprise ourselves, as I did on a memorable hike in Utah.

A Surprising Journey

During that trip, my family had planned a challenging 10-mile hike in a narrow slot wilderness—a daunting prospect for someone with a fear of heights. However, it was a special occasion, marking the last adventure with my daughter before she headed to college. Determined not to let fear hold me back, I agreed to a 4.5-mile upward trek that led to a mesmerizing canyon view of pinks, reds, and creams.

Walking along the precipice was a slow and cautious endeavor, but the support of my daughter and husband, who took turns walking on the exposed side to shield me from the edge, made it possible. I even lost an earring along the way, but the experience was worth every moment of discomfort. In this instance, I chose to confront my fear head-on because the opportunity to create a cherished memory with my daughter outweighed the fear of heights.

Embracing Discomfort for Growth

Stepping out of one's comfort zone is rarely easy, and discomfort is an inevitable companion. Yet, it's an opportunity for personal growth. The key is knowing when discomfort is a sign of an opportunity worth pursuing or when it crosses into unhealthy territory.

A useful tool I created is the “discomfort scale”, ranging from 1 to 10, where 1 represents minimal discomfort and 10 the highest. If an experience rates between 1 and 6, it's often a signal to push past your comfort zone. When it reaches 7 or higher, careful consideration is needed to determine if the discomfort is worth embracing.

Treating Acrophobia

Acrophobia, like other phobias, is treatable. Therapeutic approaches such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), exposure therapy, and medication can help individuals manage and overcome their fear of heights, providing them with tools to confront their anxieties head-on.

The Power of Choice

Fears and phobias can be limiting, but we have the power to decide when enough is enough. Nothing external holds sway over us. We determine our thoughts, feelings, and actions. While my fear of heights remains a constant 10, I can also choose when it's worth pushing beyond it. True freedom lies in taking ownership of the things that impede our growth.

So, whether you find yourself teetering on the edge of a cliff or facing any other fear that holds you back, remember that you have the choice to confront it. The journey may be uncomfortable, but the rewards of conquering your fears and expanding your horizons are immeasurable.

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