Oct 4, 2023
Recently, my husband and I went on an 8-day trip without our children; an experience we haven’t had in quite some time.  Our youngest child was starting her second year of college so even the transition to this new way of life had been accomplished the year before. We were ready to really start embracing the empty nesters phase. We thought it would be a wonderful opportunity to reconnect and have some quality time together.
Empty nesters are couples who have experienced the departure of their children from the family home, typically when children leave for college, work, or to start their own lives. This phase of life can bring about a range of emotions and changes.  For example, empty nesters often enjoy newfound freedom and independence. With fewer family responsibilities, they have more time to focus on their own interests and pursuits. It's an opportunity for couples to rekindle their relationship without the constant demands of parenting.
While many parents feel a sense of pride and accomplishment as their children become independent, they can also experience sadness, nostalgia, and even a sense of loss. This is a natural part of the transition. Parents may need to redefine their roles and identities as they are no longer primarily defined by their roles as caregivers. The family home may feel larger and quieter, leading some empty nesters to consider downsizing or making changes to their living space.
The transition to being empty nesters, when children have left home, can be both challenging and liberating. Here are some tips for parents going through this transition:
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's natural to feel a mix of emotions, including sadness, nostalgia, and relief. Accept and express these feelings rather than suppressing them. Embrace the newfound freedom and possibilities that come with being empty nesters. Focus on the positives of this stage of life.
Stay Active: Make your physical and mental well-being a priority.  Regular exercise and staying socially engaged can help combat feelings of loneliness. Take advantage of the opportunity to travel more freely. Explore new places and cultures. Consider volunteering or getting involved in community activities. It's a great way to stay engaged and find a sense of purpose. What about redecorating or repurposing rooms in your home to reflect your new lifestyle?
Stay Connected: Reconnect with the interests and hobbies you may have put on hold while raising your children. This can bring a sense of fulfillment. Use this time to rekindle your couple relationship. Plan date nights, take up a new hobby together, or embark on a second honeymoon. Keep in touch with your children, but also encourage their independence. Allow them to grow and learn on their own.
Remember that the empty nest phase can be an opportunity for personal growth and a chance to strengthen your relationship with your partner. It's a new chapter in your life, and while it may come with challenges, it also offers exciting possibilities and adventures. Enjoy the freedom of not having to cater to children's schedules and needs. Embrace the changes in your daily routine, the newfound freedom to own your time. No more pickups or drives to practices, and no rushing home to make dinner to accommodate busy schedules. It's a chance to savor the simplicity of spontaneous plans and leisurely evenings. 🕒✨