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Embracing Traditions: The Power of “Mano”

Feb 5, 2025

I vividly remember a heartwarming moment at my aunt's Christmas party in the Philippines, where laughter and joy filled the air. All the children, including my own, eagerly lined up to give “Mano” to my aunt and uncle, the gracious hosts of the evening.


“Mano,” meaning "hand" in Spanish, is a cherished Filipino tradition in which a younger person takes an elder's hand and gently presses it to their forehead as a symbol of respect and a way to seek blessings. This loving act, along with calling them “Lolo” and “Lola” (grandpa and grandma), even though they aren’t their biological grandparents, beautifully encapsulates Filipino values of love, respect, and intergenerational connection.


Watching my children perform “Mano” for their Lolo and Lola was a poignant reminder of our cultural heritage. The joy on my uncle's face as he received each gesture was priceless, and I could see pride blooming in my children as they honored their elders. These moments create cherished memories that reinforce bonds of love and respect, positively impacting the mental health of both young and old.


In Filipino culture, friends often refer to each other as brother or sister, fostering a strong sense of community. Recently, while at a café with my niece, I observed her and her friends affectionately calling the waitress “Ate,” meaning "older sister." This term reflects the warmth and respect they extend to those around them, highlighting the importance of building relationships based on kindness.


As I grow older, I find myself looking at my long-time friends, who have become like family—like cousins. These deep connections enrich my life, reminding me that the bonds we form with friends can be just as meaningful and supportive as those with relatives. It’s a beautiful testament to the idea that family can extend beyond blood ties, rooted in love, respect, and shared experiences.


Similar practices around the globe echo the sentiment behind “Mano.” In India, for instance, touching the feet of elders, known as "Pranam," serves as a powerful gesture of respect and a way to seek blessings. In Japan, bowing conveys humility and acknowledges social hierarchy, reinforcing respect within families.


“Mano” serves as a bridge for sharing wisdom and stories, enriching our family heritage. It evokes feelings of belonging and gratitude, reminding us all of the importance of nurturing our relationships. In many Middle Eastern cultures, a warm "Salam," accompanied by a hand over the heart, signifies respect and sincerity, much like the affection conveyed during “Mano.”


Reflecting on that Christmas party deepened my appreciation for our cultural traditions and their role in teaching my children the values of love and connection. In a world that often prioritizes individualism, practices like “Mano” are vital for preserving our culture and fostering emotional well-being.


I encourage you to reflect on similar practices in your own culture that promote respect and connection. How do you honor your elders? What family traditions nurture love? How can you weave these values into your daily life?


“Mano” is more than a gesture; it symbolizes love and respect, strengthening familial bonds across generations. Let’s embrace these traditions together, creating a lasting legacy of love and respect for future generations.

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